hardly comes into the world a little man, parents, first of all, prepared for him cots have.To and natural mattress and bumpers are soft, and beautiful linens and karuselkah music required.However sleep crumbs often placed in the parent bed , to which he very quickly gets used.How to wean your child from this habit, and whether it is possible baby to sleep with Mom and Dad?
content of the article:
- Benefits and harms that the child sleeps with his parents
- How to wean your baby to sleep with their parents?
favor of the child sleeps with his parents - whether there is harm?
Stack Does crumbs in my bed - decides every mother for itself.There is no consensus on this issue is not even the pediatricians and psychologists.Therefore, we understand in the "pros and cons", as well as age limits - when you can, and when it is not necessary.
Why can not the baby to bed with parents:
- independence and personality is formed more quickly and actively , the more to the process conditions, including (in this case) - own room, their own bed, your space. From experience, that "the baby crying, and I did not hear" save radio nanny at my mother's bedside.In an extreme case, a newborn crib next to the bed with a parent.
- sleep next to my mother for a long time (especially after 3-4 years) - is strong dependence on the mother in the future (in most cases).The decision will be guided by the views of the child is the mother.
- Newborn baby parent can inadvertently press down a dream. Usually moms feel great dream of their children (maternal instinct has not been canceled), but the risk of pin child increases sharply with acute fatigue or taking sleeping pills, sedatives, and so on. But popes have no maternal instinct - an awkward movement during sleep may end tragically.
- In case Pope acute lack of attention to mothers, laid the baby in the parents' bed is impractical - for the benefit of the relationship is not going.
- proximity between parents at the sleeping baby, as a minimum, difficult .What is also for the benefit of the marital relationship is not.
- For reasons of hygiene baby is not recommended to lay with the parents.First, the illness of parents will affect the baby.Second, wash the diaper from the crib is much easier than the parent to dry mattress.
- According to statistics, more than 50% pairs , put the children to bed between his father and mother, divorced.
views of experts in favor of sleeping baby with parents:
- from birth to 2-3 years sleep for crumbs under my mother's side does not bear any harm ( personal relationship father and mother incalculation does not take).After 2-3 years of your baby should be "resettled" in the cot without fail.
- sleep with the baby in bed - natural phenomenon for Mom , who simply are not physically strong enough to stand up to the bed every 2-3 hours.
- for newborns (especially from 0 to 3 months) sleep with his mother - a feeling its warmth and absolute security.During pregnancy crumb gets used to my mother's breathing rhythm to the heartbeat, voice.During the first few weeks - the smell.And for peace of mind baby closeness mom in the first 3 months - it is a necessity, not a whim.
- in bed with mom and dad baby rarely wakes up, respectively, sleep better parents .
- proximity baby promotes lactation and quiet process of feeding crumbs "on demand".
- sleeping together - emotional bond with crumbs , which is very important in the first weeks and months of baby's life.
- Children who slept with their parents, less afraid of the dark are older and easier to fall asleep.
- When sharing a dream synchronized cycles of sleep and wakefulness crumbs and mother.
- sleeping together - the need , when the mother immediately after birth goes to work, and time to communicate with the baby is limited to working hours.
and some rules on the safety of co-sleeping mother and baby:
- Do not put crumbs together and spouse , to dad accidentally pressed the baby during sleep.Lay close to the wall or to construct roller-bordyurchik of blankets.
- place where the baby sleeps should be different stiffness. From soft bed in the future may have problems with the spine.
- not wrapped over crumbs when taking him to her at night. and covered with a separate blanket.
- When severe fatigue, taking serious drugs, lack of sleep Lay your baby alone.
How to wean a child sleeping with parents - detailed instruction for parents
disaccustom baby from sleeping together (if it has already acquired the habit) be within 2-3 years (and better after 1.5 years).Get ready, the process will be difficult and long, be patient.And we'll show you how to "do a little blood" and to wean crumbs over 2-3 years of your bed as painless as possible.
- If the baby's life will have some important event, which can seriously affect their psychological state - wait a little with the "resettlement» .Such an event could be moving, the birth of a brother / sister, kindergarten, hospital, etc.
- Strongly recommended strongly to relocate residents of a small your bed in the bed on the principle - "From this day asleep in his bed, period."Go to the new conditions of sleep slowly and gradually.
- start with an afternoon nap .On naps - in a crib.Of course, my mother next, until the crumb will not fall asleep.And of course - all conditions for comfortable sleep.
- At night sleep to start - not a separate bed, and a light barrier between you. For example, a toy.
- Terms comfortable night's sleep child traditional: fresh clean linens (preferably with a picture of his choosing baby - multgeroya etc.);comfortable mattress and the bed itself;favorite toy;a night light on the wall;ventilated room;no active games before bedtime;aromatic bath;a full stomach;bedtime story;wall paintings, etc..
- Never punish your baby by "Will you behave badly, you will go to my bed." Cots must be a place in which you want to climb and sleep comfortably curled up, not a place of "exemplary flogging".
- If a child is categorically does not want to move - start small.Slide his crib to the parental bed.If your child suddenly babayka dream or imagined the monster in the closet, he will be able to move urgently to you under the flank.Gradually, in the process of getting used to the baby, a crib can push farther.
- If a kid wants to bed instead of a small teddy bear huge rabbit or even a car - do not argue with him.Let will take time, he sleep with a favorite toy.When he falls asleep, gently remove it or move the feet, at the end of the bed.The same applies to the laundry if required pipsqueak set with Spider-Man, do not force him underwear with flowers or stars.
- Choose a nightlight with the child .Let him decide who will cover it at night and protect its fabulous light from babaek (if he is afraid of them).
- allow the child to show independence, self-esteem you raise the baby («hurray, my mother thinks I'm an adult!"), And thus help him to move with less stress in their own bed.
- Ask someone from relatives or friends (a man whose authority is indisputable for the kid) chance to touch with a child theme of co-sleeping .Usually opinion from the outside, but still an important person for the child is very valuable.Let the man gently, in a narrative form and 'on your children's example "will carry to the baby, that at this age need to sleep in his crib.Like, but I was your age already ...
- kid for a week sleeping alone?This is an occasion to arrange a small celebration after its independence.With cakes, gifts and "medal" from the mother of courage and independence.
- Get ready for the fact that the first few days ( or even weeks) pipsqueak be resorted to creep up to you at night .What should I do in this case?Wait until the baby falls asleep and then gently carry him back to "the place of permanent deployment."Or just get up, accompany the crumbs back to bed and sit side by side, until he falls asleep again.
- If your child is over 4 years old, and he's still sleeping in your bed, it's time to reflect. or have psychological problems in the child (fear, for example), or the baby is in your bed because of problems in his personal life.This situation is not uncommon.Some mothers, not wanting intimacy with her husband due to any reason, leave the baby to sleep in the marital bed.And in fact, in both cases the solution is needed.
- Use radio nanny .Or buy two way radios, the child can at any time to call you, or just make sure you close and do not forget about him.Radios - a fashionable toy for the child, and therefore a real "play" find for this case.Toddler much easier something to teach through play.
- Turn sleep in the process of placing your fine tradition: bathe before going to bed, drink milk with cookies (for example), to talk with her mother about the most important things in the world, check out the new interesting tale, and so forth. The child has to wait for that moment as the holidayand not to hide from you in the corners, afraid to be alone again in his bed.
Remember, every child in the subconscious founded fear that while he sleeps, the world can turn over, and Mom disappeared.Therefore, it is important that pipsqueak always felt your support and closeness.
Has your family life like situation?And as you come out of them?Share your stories in the comments below!